How to LOVE your job as a parent9 Comments
Being a parent is one of the toughest jobs around but is definitely the most rewarding. Here are some easy tips from Focus On The Family that will help you flourish as a parent and remember why you love being a parent so much!
- 1. Accept no substitutes. Remember that there is no substitute for you, as a parent, when it comes to your child. There is no other person who is quite capable of caring and taking care of your child quite like you! You know their needs, wants, desires, and dreams. And it’s easy to get caught up in comparing yourself to other parents, questioning your own parenting abilities. Arelene Pellicane says, “Even when you feel woefully inadequate, there’s no one better equipped to parent your child. God gave your children to you. And He built them to be in a relationship with you.” But the best message you can send your child is that you’re there for them and that they are important to you. Let your actions and words send that message every day.
- 2. Place more value on humility than self-esteem. In today’s day in age, we are taught that helping your child reach the highest of self-esteem is most important; however, a recent study concluded when a parent teaches a child that they are “more awesome” than their peers, it lead the child to have more narcissistic tendencies over time. Humility equals humbleness and this is important to teach your child at a very young age. Rather than your child only looking out for number one, teach them to help others and be willing to be interested in the views, thoughts, and opinions of others.
- 3. Never stop learning. How can you be the best teacher for your child? Become an expert on the subject–your child! New questions are bound to arise with every new developmental turn your child takes and, at times, you may feel unprepared. Don’t be afraid to ask advice from your pediatrician, friends and other parents, or even read a parenting book or two.
- 4. Look towards your end goal. What kind of adult do you want your child to be? What virtues, traits, and skills to you want to instill in your child so that they grow into a responsible adult? It’s never too early to start teaching your child those things!
- 5. Plead the fifth. Teach them the Fifth Commandment: “Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land that the Lord your God is giving you.” (Exodus 20:12. Arlene Pellicane, author of the article “Take this job and love it,” in which this blog is adapted from, urges parents “if you want your child to live a good and blessed life, pray and plead with God that your children will understand what it means to honor you as a parent….The way children treat parents will form the basis for how they treat others–their future friends, spouse, teachers, bosses, and yes, even God.”
So go out and try these tips. Let us know which ones you liked and how they will be helpful not only for your future but your children’s future as well.
Adapted from the Focus on the Family article titled "Take this job and love it. 5 simple tips that will help you thrive as a parent," written by Arlene Pellicane. No copyright infringement intended.