Your Guide to Finding True Love6 Comments
Dannah Gresh recently appeared on Focus on the Family to talk about finding true love. Here are some highlights from her talk. If you want more info from Dannah, check out her book “Get Lost: Your Guide to Finding True Love” here.
- 1. Stop manipulating love—let God direct your passion and pursuits. Make a promise to yourself and to God to create a happy and healthy relationship. The Bible states in Genesis 3:16 that women have a violent craving for male attention and love, which perhaps explains why women can fall victim to a man who isn’t right for her or isn’t Godly.
- 2. Let go of control—in every relationship there’s submission; we always have to be in submission somewhere, whether it’s to your boss, your friends, etc but couples, especially women, really struggle with this in relationships. Why will we submit to our girlfriends and her needs but not to our husbands? Why must we emasculate men in order to feel good and right in our relationships?
- 3. Question why you’re “Falling In Love.” Falling in love is a relatively new phenomenon. When our country was being founded, marriages we’re based on who would be a good match for you. Couples were often arranged by which individuals would be compatible together. Friends and family often were a part of the decision because marriages were based on values than based on attraction. We don’t want the attraction to become greater than the commitment and self-giving love of your partner.
- 4. Evaluate your love relationship. Are you putting all of your emphasis on your partner? If so, maybe you’re not ready to be in a love relationship. Until you really believe that Jesus is enough, and God is sovereign, you may not be ready to be in a love relationship because love relationships on Earth are just a momentary picture of the ultimate love relationship of Christ and His bride.
- 5. Be intentional about what you’re looking for. Ask your family and friends for advice on what they think a good relationship is. If you have any doubts, go to the word of God. For the women, the book of Ephesians 5 describes the 5 things a husband should have. And for the men, the book of Titus lists the 5 things a wife should have. Always turn to the Word.
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