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Your Guide to Finding True Love


Dannah Gresh recently appeared on Focus on the Family to talk about finding true love. Here are some highlights from her talk. If you want more info from Dannah, check out her book “Get Lost: Your Guide to Finding True Love” here.

  1. 1. Stop manipulating love—let God direct your passion and pursuits. Make a promise to yourself and to God to create a happy and healthy relationship. The Bible states in Genesis 3:16 that women have a violent craving for male attention and love, which perhaps explains why women can fall victim to a man who isn’t right for her or isn’t Godly.
  2. 2. Let go of control—in every relationship there’s submission; we always have to be in submission somewhere, whether it’s to your boss, your friends, etc but couples, especially women, really struggle with this in relationships. Why will we submit to our girlfriends and her needs but not to our husbands? Why must we emasculate men in order to feel good and right in our relationships?
  3. 3. Question why you’re “Falling In Love.” Falling in love is a relatively new phenomenon. When our country was being founded, marriages we’re based on who would be a good match for you. Couples were often arranged by which individuals would be compatible together. Friends and family often were a part of the decision because marriages were based on values than based on attraction. We don’t want the attraction to become greater than the commitment and self-giving love of your partner.
  4. 4. Evaluate your love relationship. Are you putting all of your emphasis on your partner? If so, maybe you’re not ready to be in a love relationship. Until you really believe that Jesus is enough, and God is sovereign, you may not be ready to be in a love relationship because love relationships on Earth are just a momentary picture of the ultimate love relationship of Christ and His bride.
  5. 5. Be intentional about what you’re looking for. Ask your family and friends for advice on what they think a good relationship is. If you have any doubts, go to the word of God. For the women, the book of Ephesians 5 describes the 5 things a husband should have. And for the men, the book of Titus lists the 5 things a wife should have. Always turn to the Word.

What do you think? Do you agree with Dannah? Let us know in the comments below!


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    She has much wisdom! Marriage is too important to go about it quickly and without thinking it through for the long term. Marrying your best friend, who is selfless and has godly values, will see you through the rough times in a relationship. Praying for God’s choice and getting the approval of parents and others who love you will lend support to you both when things are rough.

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    Jerry Marelli

    Seems so simple but somehow, someway, we complicate the love relationship. If we would follow God’s advice we would find the happiness and completeness that He intended for us.

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    To find “true” love you first need to know the Author of true love, Jesus Christ. It’s so easy to meet Him. He’s waiting to meet you-just call on His name. Go ahead……………He’s waiting, discover love as it’s meant to be experienced. Share it with your family and friends and with that “special” someone. Discover His love together. Your life will never, never be the same again.

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    Having Jesus first means letting Him guide you through His Holy Spirit. Counsel with family/friends helps in looking beyond the romantic aspect of the relationship…ex. how does the man treat his mother? Does he respect you and accept your weakness and good points. the same for a woman acceptance of a man.

    Trusting Jesus to be the head of your relationship.

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    true love is so much more than a phrase, quote, book or song it is about dying to self daily, becoming a student of your spouse and never stop romancing your spouse. Only can be accomplished with the power of the Holy Spirit.

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    love is not a phrase, Quote, song or book. It is daily dying to self, becoming a student of your spouse and never stop romancing. This can only be accomplished with the power of The Holy Spirit

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    It’s the littⅼе changes that make the moѕt important changes.
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